Weddings: Just an Excuse for a Party!
posted on 23 April 2011 | posted in
Fashion
There was a time when people stood in front of a minister and vowed before God to stay together through every challenge and difficulty that life could throw at them. It was a sober occasion and meant to be taken seriously, with a lot of forethought. The ceremony was the main event. Witnesses, vows, exchanging of rings, the culmination of an engagement period when the enormity of the decision to spend an entire life with one person was seriously considered. The dress, the bridal comb tiaras, flowers, decorations, food, honeymoon - all secondary. For many, non-existent. The present day American wedding is almost the polar opposite of what it once was. Months of preparation go into the wedding, but the preparation involves long hours with a floral designer, trekking to dozens of bridal salons and agonizing over what to serve at the reception. Little thought is given to main event - joining a life with another life - because so few actually believe in their vows in the first place. The party is the thing. Hopefully, a BIGGER party is the thing - more expensive, more over the top, a better show! It is no wonder that the divorce rate is high. The day-to-day life of working through a marriage can never compare to an extravagant party. Couples feel let down, like they are not doing it "right" and give up. Expectations are inappropriate because they are not realistic. Marriage needs to be seen for what it is - a glorious union of two people, who live out ALL aspects of life, wonderful AND difficult together, determined never to quit.
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